Telling a female employee to shave her moustache.

[pointedem]

file under " don't open your mouth"

[Parvo]

Our HR person has been out of the office for 3 weeks at the Olympics, and was too overwhelmed with catching up to meet with me to discuss the handling of this issue.

But I put the book back on her desk and said I’m not dealing with it. I told her “Gentlemen don’t remark on the mustaches of ladies."

It will ultimately have to be dealt with, other managers don't want her included in hosting duties (when media, assorted VIPs visit) until she shaves.

[Poop~Ghost]

Ask her if she's familiar with the song "Lip Service" by Debbie Harry.

Should get the point across.

[Skipig25]

I agree with a staff dinner or something, have spouses/whoever else doesn't work at the company attends, and have them ridicule her 'stache. If I give a few drunken remarks on a woman with a moustache she can't sue me

[DirkaDirkaJack]

You realize if she starts shaving it, it will just grow back thicker right? I think the only thing more distracting could be some gnarly five o'clock shadow.

[JoeStrummer]

Women are a protected class in the workplace, stautorily. You could be creating an offensive workplace environment for this individual by remarking on the mustache, particularly if there is some underlying medical or ethnic reason for her having a big bushy 1909 Red Sox quality 'stache.

You did the smart thing by getting out of the way on this one.

[bitchtits]

this is fucking tits i have a teacher who just like to piss me off. and she has the mother of all ladystache's and i just want to tell her shes got some poop on her lip... just once before i leave that school.

[back bowl]

If you have any part in it, make sure you get some writing that says they made you do it. I'm not an employment lawyer, but if I was I'm sure I could find some way to sue the shit out of people who hire hairy ladies then tell them they have to shave...

Cover your ass. And don't hire any more hairy ladies.

[Art Shirk]

I sent her a link to this thread. Problem solved.

[krp8128]

I sent her a link to this thread. Problem solved.

Set it as her homepage.

[Steven S. Dallas]

Set it as her homepage.

Or just install a macro that changes her name to "The Bearded Lady."

[nutcase]

drug her coffee and when she passes out shave it your damn self. You're welcome.

[Notchtop]

According to the ad at the side of this page, you should click to "Win Laser Hair Removal."
Pass the winning certificate on to said employee.
Sometimes I love smart ads.

[bklyn]

You did the right thing and you should continue to refuse to have this conversation with her... ever. If they try to force your hand in this, you should refuse to have this conversation without a female employee from HR and the hiring manager present at the meeting. Do NOT fall into this trap as a male employee!

I have had to explain the purpose of deodorant and other personal care items to quite a few employees. It's a more common problem than you would guess as American standards of grooming are often quite different than in Europe/Asia/Africa/etc. and what is normal there can be considered offensive here. It's very difficult to approach these topics without hurting feelings.

However, as a man, you should not ever broach the topic of grooming standards with a female employee and not ever in a one on one meeting! Avoid this task at all costs. Your career is on the line.

[splat]

Our HR person has been out of the office for 3 weeks at the Olympics, and was too overwhelmed with catching up to meet with me to discuss the handling of this issue.

But I put the book back on her desk and said I’m not dealing with it. I told her “Gentlemen don’t remark on the mustaches of ladies."

It will ultimately have to be dealt with, other managers don't want her included in hosting duties (when media, assorted VIPs visit) until she shaves.

I take it you are not in a position to delegate this chore to someone you despise.

[hoarhey]

continue to stay away Parvo!
Don't make the same mistake that Italian singer Tiziano Ferro made talking about all of the "bearded" women of Mexico.

[ame="http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=FBvMOpLO3BU&feature=related"]YouTube- INCREIBLE!! MeXiCaNaS BiGoToNaS..[/ame]

It almost ruined his career.

Here's a link to his Tiger-esque apology.

[ame="http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5MhpG19Eq2g&NR=1"]YouTube- Tiziano Ferro videodisculpas a México[/ame]

[AltaAndy]

moustache march competition for everybody. then she will just come off as a team player to outsiders and everybody wins. eventually, someone will remark about her joining at some point and she will hear it. realize she has probably heard lots of jokes/comments about it before, though.

make sure not to say shit about her stache to anyone, especially her. thats a bad situation just waiting to happen

[TNKen]

Women are a protected class in the workplace, stautorily. You could be creating an offensive workplace environment for this individual by remarking on the mustache, particularly if there is some underlying medical or ethnic reason for her having a big bushy 1909 Red Sox quality 'stache.

You did the smart thing by getting out of the way on this one.

Ditto. And in addition, a claim based on intentional/negligent infliction of emotional distress. And HR will be paying for her counseling as well.

[DBdude]

Reminds me of an old joke:
Guy standing in elevator next to blonde bombshell. He turns to her and asks, "Can I smell your pussy?"
She looks at him, incredulous, and answers "NO!!"







He says, "Oh, it must be your feet then."

i now have to clean my flat screen, thanx

still laughing my ass off

[heferly]

You realize if she starts shaving it, it will just grow back thicker right? I think the only thing more distracting could be some gnarly five o'clock shadow.

haha, that would be awesome

alternative - my sister-in-law bleaches her upper lip...seems to work

leave a tube of that on her chair...

[doughboyshredder]

The managers that have a problem with it need counseling. If anyone says anything to this woman I hope there is a huge lawsuit. There are hereditary conditions that can cause this, and it can also be caused by early onset menopause.

Regardless, not liking the way an employee looks to the extent that decisions are made differently because of it is a hell of a lot more offensive to me than an ugly woman. In fact if this was my business the person spearheading this may be fired.

[QuikR12]

Can we get a pic of said lady stasch?

[dumpy]

Regardless, not liking the way an employee looks to the extent that decisions are made differently because of it is a hell of a lot more offensive to me than an ugly woman. In fact if this was my business the person spearheading this may be fired.

What if Parvo worked at a strip joint?
(given some of his stories, it wouldn't surprise me at all)

[Parvo]

I don't work at a strip joint, but do a lot of volunteer work with the unwed teenage mothers who dance there.

Caught up with our HR person, just when I thought she understood why I wasn't going to address the mustache issue, she asked me "so are you going to talk to her about her attire?". Apparently, the new hire attended a high-end event where business suits were required and she wore a "broomstrick dress" (I had to google that), patchwork sweater that she likely knitted herself, birkenstocks and stockings.

I won't be touching that one either.

[Conundrum]

The managers that have a problem with it need counseling. If anyone says anything to this woman I hope there is a huge lawsuit. There are hereditary conditions that can cause this, and it can also be caused by early onset menopause.
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You are chick with a mustache huh?